For those feeling nervous about performing oral sex, it may help to send up a prayer — and try the praying position first. Eric Marlowe Garrison, clinical sexologist and bestselling author of Mastering Multiple Position Sex , says of his favorite hands-on oral technique, "Because I believe that perfect practice makes perfect, something I learned from my high school marching band director, it's important that she help him with his technique. One of the ways that I'd recommend this happen is that she places her hands as though she's praying, and she drops them down to where her vulva is. She can do this fully clothed, or she can do this partially clothed, or she can do this naked. With her thumb as the clitoris and the space between the two index fingers as the introitus, she can talk to him about how and where he needs to use his fingers, tongue or toys. She can also ask her partner to put his hands in the same position, and then show him how it can be done."